GUYZ & GIRLS...What’s The Big Deal About Séx, Love, Romance?
Séx, love and romance are a big deal. Such a big deal, in fact, that there’s a whole industry built and focused on them.
No matter where you are, who you are, who you love, and how you love, there’s a day, a month, a concept, a parade, a book, or even a sub-culture that is tailored just for you; waiting and lurking to grab you in its clutches and sink its tenterhooks around your neck until you give in.
Now, I realize that may sound sceptical, but as they say; it is what it is.
Bringing this “culture” home to Nigeria is a whole other kettle of fish. As with pretty much everything else in our beloved motherland, ‘e get k-leg.’
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I find that in my beloved Naija, the idea of romance can be far removed from what we are told it should be by the endless romance movies (be they from Hollywood or Bollywood), sappy music, and other messages that filter in through a variety of ways.
Romance in Naija might not be fresh red roses “just because” o; it may be your lady love surprising you with freshly pounded yam and your favorite soup after a rough day at work, or your partner putting oil in your car so your engine doesn’t knock while you’re driving to and fro Third Mainland Bridge. You might have to forget about dimmed lights and soft music playing as you make sweet love, because quite frankly, young lovers often have to settle for a quickie before the parents come home.
Nevertheless, I think we should talk about it. Let’s talk about the differences, the similarities, and the peculiarities of love, séx and romance in our corner of the world.
Bringing this “culture” home to Nigeria is a whole other kettle of fish. As with pretty much everything else in our beloved motherland, ‘e get k-leg.’
I don’t know if it’s just me, but I find that in my beloved Naija, the idea of romance can be far removed from what we are told it should be by the endless romance movies (be they from Hollywood or Bollywood), sappy music, and other messages that filter in through a variety of ways.
Romance in Naija might not be fresh red roses “just because” o; it may be your lady love surprising you with freshly pounded yam and your favorite soup after a rough day at work, or your partner putting oil in your car so your engine doesn’t knock while you’re driving to and fro Third Mainland Bridge. You might have to forget about dimmed lights and soft music playing as you make sweet love, because quite frankly, young lovers often have to settle for a quickie before the parents come home.
Nevertheless, I think we should talk about it. Let’s talk about the differences, the similarities, and the peculiarities of love, séx and romance in our corner of the world.
no big deal
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